How I do social media:
1. You are not going to get any realistic idea of whether I am a good employee candidate or would be competent at my job by looking at my social media.
I was told a long time ago to keep work life and business life separate. That cuts both ways. Not hiring someone because you don’t like who they voted for in the last election is just as bad as shooting them for the way they voted in the last election. Put it aside and mind your own business.
Also, I am highly unlikely to want to be connected to co-workers on social media, and I absolutely refuse to be connected to anyone there who has any authority over me in the workplace. Let’s just not.
2. I don’t have an in-person social circle in this phase of my life, so social media’s basically it. If you find that pathetic, don’t friend or follow me.
2a. I talk about my life a lot on social media, because I’d rather speak for myself than have others speak for me. If you don’t like me talking about my life on social media, this will be me:
3. For interacting with me, Facebook is your best bet. I’m in a few other places (see my social-media widget on this site), but I’m not necessarily active there. Instagram probably comes in second to Facebook. I’m sporadic on the rest. I would really like to connect with more of you on MeWe, though.
4. My friend limit on Facebook is Dunbar’s number: 150 people. It’s not a Facebook setting, it’s just my personal limit. If I hit 151, someone’s going to be cycled off. I prioritize people who interact with me over people who don’t.
If you get booted or I don’t accept your friend request, the Facebook link in the social icons down in the footer of this site is to my public page. That’s different than my personal profile and you don’t need my approval to follow it. Feel free.
I am much less finicky about other social media accounts unless you’re an obvious troll, asshole (but I repeat myself), or bot.
5. Whether I stay connected with you on social media has zero bearing on whether I like or hate you. But if I’ve disconnected, there will have been a reason. Try getting in touch with me like normal folks and asking me, and maybe you’ll find out what it is. If you don’t care, well, I probably figured that out and that’s probably why you’re gone.
6. I’m not a major user of the block feature anywhere. Mostly I use it on Facebook for people who use the “haha” react to harass me. (If you’re there, you probably know what I’m talking about.)
If you block me and I find out and then notice you again later under a different account, I’ll be blocking you back. I don’t use the block feature a whole hell of a lot, but I’m tired of people’s stupid drama. I tried giving people second chances under this exact scenario and it turned out they were every bit as lunatic as they had previously appeared to be, so… sorry, but they’ve ruined me for you.
(I never said I don’t get dramatic. But both of us being dramatic at once is just too much fucking noise.)
7. Observe the word “social” in the term social media. If you can’t exercise basic social skills but you’re still generally easy for me to get along with, fine (for instance, I don’t care if you hurl F-bombs), but if you act like an asshole by my standards, you’re not going to last long with me. If I have to keep you around to maintain appearances, I will probably unfollow you and throw you on (if on Facebook) my Restricted list. I find 99.9 percent of people I’ve done this to never notice — clearly it’s painless. But it saves my sanity, a bit.
P.S. Several months after I first made this page, I finally figured out I had not numbered these items sequentially. Oops. Fixed. I think what happened was originally there were ten items and then I edited heavily and forgot to re-number. I’ve just edited again (December 2025), but this time I noticed. Sorry.
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Look at the footer for my social-media links. Have fun. (Or not. Whatever.) If you would like to see my blog posts about my general social-media situation (why???), go here.